Talk.
It's helped build civilizations, broker important
business deals and aid humans in understanding each other since the
beginning of time.
But in a society where time is money, conversation is becoming a
long-lost art, relegated to the likes of stitching, handwritten
letters and nonmicrowave dinners.
Now a local group is trying to reverse the trend and get people
to stop, listen and rekindle the flames of good old-fashioned
discussion.
Gathering biweekly around cups of coffee, tea and a few brownies
at the Rincon Market, at East Sixth Street and North Tucson
Boulevard, the group tackles topics like education and raising
children as well as more philosophic themes like the meaning of
power and truth in modern life.
"Society is moving at such a fast pace that people don't have
time to just sit and think anymore," said Mike Millard, one of the
hosts of the Conversation Café.
Millard got the idea for the cafe from simplicity circles he
began leading two years ago, forums where people got together to
discuss ways they could simplify their lives, from cutting spending
to de-cluttering their closets and, eventually, their minds.
The café, which is held every other week, began in May.
The rules are simple: listen, be respectful, give everyone a
chance to speak.
"It's a living entity that takes on a life of its own," said
Patricia Rosas, a co-host of the Conversation Café. "Shyness just
evaporates."
For Jimmy Allen, who is 43 and self-employed, the best part of
the Conversation Café is meeting interesting and like-minded people
who are curious, passionate and as enthusiastic about learning from
each other as he is.
"I am continuously searching for deeper conversation, that not
only stimulates your mind, but also your soul," he said.
In late 19th-century Europe, talk was propelled to a new level
when salons became the place to be seen and heard for the leading
intellectuals of the era. Poet Gertrude Stein and philosopher Samuel
Taylor Coleridge gathered family and friends to vent on topics like
religion, politics and the meaning of art.
They talked because talking led to more concrete ideas and
eventually action. They talked because they needed to understand
their world better. Not surprisingly, the reasons are much the same
today.
"Real conversation is something a little more in depth, something
that forces me to take a subject and look inside myself and see how
I feel about it," said Kieran Conner, 23.
Unlike a bar or a dance club, two venues where many people
Conner's age usually go to socialize, the Conversation Café gives
her a chance to meet new people who value intellectual discussion as
much as she does.
"It's a nice exchange that happens because people are really
there to talk," she said.
The Tucson Conversation Café is one of hundreds of similar groups
that have sprouted around the United States due to disciples of
Vicki Robin, author of "Your Money or Your Life." In it, this
Seattle writer uses a nine-step program aimed at simplifying
people's lives and focusing on their priorities.
It's a philosophy that Rosas and Millard say they have espoused
in their own lives and they are, as a result, happier and more
fulfilled than ever.
And lest we forget, the simple act of talking is a part of the
democratic process that keeps us informed about the issues and
active in our government, said Millard.
"Some of the best ideas are born from conversations," he said.
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